REGRETTABLE DECLINE IN ‘INDIANNESS’ – REVERENCE FOR ELDERS


Indian Elderly Mostly Neglected Says Study

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NEW DELHI, INDIA, May 14, 2006: With the joint family concept on the decline, a study has shown the dwindling acceptance of the elderly by their families with the overriding concern being lack of respect, regard and love. Even as the fragmentation of the family has been linked to the economic condition, the largest number of nuclear families (67.6 percent) belong to the upper class bracket, says a study by Helpage India. Rural India continues to remain largely unaffected with most (64.5 percent) opting to stay together, though financial security at 92 percent appeared as the biggest factor among rural families. Financial independence and giving advice only when sought are two other factors which largely influence the position occupied by family elders, according to the study that also states that those with means to contribute command a higher standing and connect better with the next generation. Acceptance is taken to be the highest when the aged do not interfere in family matters and respect the independence and space of others at home. From the perspective of the elderly, says the study, the most sought after thing by them is respect and regard from their families. While 90 percent of senior citizens from middle-class families appear to be the most neglected emotionally with lack of respect, regard and affection, 80 percent in the upper income group, 74 percent in the lower class families and 91 percent among rural areas have the same complaint, the study said.

 

Comment: When I arrived in Britain in Dec 1970 – the Educational establishment wanted an essay from me of my impressions of Britain. One of the social issues that bothered me then and still does was of incarceration of the older people into Older People Homes. I wrote then hoping that Asians would not change from their duty to look after their elder parents and grand-parents.

 

Looking back, I think to myself – how ‘short-sighted’ I must have been not to foresee the imminent decline of moral and social fabric of all social structures. May be I am of the ‘old school’ – my parents’ ‘sravann’ – a fabled young son who carried his blind parents on his shoulders in a bamboo lath with slings at both ends to carry his parents to the once-in-the-lifetime pilgrimage of holy places.

 

I am certainly not happy to read of deterioration of social, moral, ethical and hereditary values especially in India. this is not progress in any sense of the word. This is not civilisation. You will remember that I chose not to use the word ‘civilisation’ to describe the local culture here. It is because of actual deterioration of what was held as ‘decent values’ in society. I am deeply saddened by this revelations.

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4 responses to “REGRETTABLE DECLINE IN ‘INDIANNESS’ – REVERENCE FOR ELDERS

  1. sillygloop

    This is what money can do to the best of intentions. Work beckons
    people away from their family and then it’s hard to reunite after one has
    got used to the lifestyle created by good jobs and other utilities, services
    and indulgences that a city has to offer. It then becomes a case of living
    out of the city and making an annual sojourn to connect with ones’ roots.

  2. Krish

    Here Here! I will look after you when you are old dad, don’t worry!

  3. Anant M

    Vijay
     
    I suspected as much but the study has shown the dwindling acceptance of he elderly by their families with the overriding concern being lack of respect, regard and love.
     
    If this is true – how do you think one can balance the individual’s need for economic wellbeing v the elders’ need for care, support and respect without being emotionally torn?

  4. Anant M

    Darling Krishna
     
    Thank you for the altruistic offer but in accordance with our culture, etiquette (Muryada) and ethics, daughters are considered as souls having taken birth in a given family only to benefit and grace their respective husband’s home (presuming they wish to marry). It is neither customary for nor expected of daughters to have to provide support to old and infirm parents save for their eternal love for which we both, your mother and I, consider ourselves (Khoosh-nasib) blessedly lucky.
     
    Unconditionally yours
     
    Bhai

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